The Social Media Life

Slay is the goal…. Money is the tool….. But who is the fool!?

This is a really personal blog!… Maybe because I have suffered a lot from this issue I am about to discuss on here and I know for a fact a lot of people are suffering from it presently and for the sake of this post,  lets tag it the “SOCIAL MEDIA LIFE“…๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐Ÿ‘ง

Now I believe we have an idea of what this is about just from the title..but I’ll go further to explain.. Its all about …..

The Trips….โœˆ๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‡ง๐Ÿ‡ฏ๐Ÿ‡ฒ๐Ÿ‡ณ๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ 

The Clothes๐Ÿ‘ โŒš๐Ÿ‘—๐Ÿ‘– 

The Slay..๐Ÿ’‡๐Ÿ’…๐Ÿ‘…


The Body๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช 

The Bae..๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’‘ 

So on and so forth๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š.. You see all this all day long ๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜–and unconsciously or consciously you start to compare yourself with them… And then it begins๐Ÿ‘‡

Now I am speaking from my personal experience..it may or may not be the case with you… But this is how it starts…

1)A LONGING:  things like…wow!, ohhh how I wish I could have that human hair she has on… “Or this is cute …their love is so beautiful… I wish…”..then the next begins….

2)COMPARISON: hmmmm my skin is not as clear as hers,why wasn’t I born to a rich family?! my boyfriend is not spending enough like these guys, my wardrobe ain’t even close to hers/his…”ohhh poor me!!๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฉ”

3) BRAINSTORM:  how on earth do they do this?… Why can’t I be like them?, what do I have to dooooo, I need to change boyfriends.!๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿ™…,…“I need a life”

Now at this point it goes either wayyyy south( terribly bad) or wayyy east( positively good)

Why do I say so?!!….its in this stage of brainstorming that one either takes the hard way out or the easy way out…besides all that matters is the end result righttt!!??
WRONG!!!!

And if it goes wayyyy south…..๐Ÿ‘‡
4)SELF ESTEEM DROPS A 100%

5) ANYHOW IS A HOW: At this stage you are willing to do just about any thing to slay and have the so called fun life at just about any cost..

Many a times what we see online ain’t even near the truth to what goes on in their reality….                                             You see its a circle, and at some point this people you are striving to be like, were once at this same stage you are at right now… The BRAINSTORM.

I sometimes wished I had prettier clothes, more makeup,more money, a richer boyfriend, a cooler job, a sexier body, but happens mostly during or  after surfing the net for hours none stop..especially Instagram, and honestly speaking..at some point I was just gonna take the easy way out… After all.. Others were doing it why would my case be any diff … But thank God for Jesus… He opened my eyes to see that not all that glitter is gold๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜..

Those prettier clothes they are rocking, if and only if you knew how they got it…(not all of them ohhh)..

That sexier body…if you knew the sicknesses that rampages them on a regular (not all ohh)..or even the rigorous activities they do just to maintain it,๐Ÿ’ญjust imagine life without ice cream๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ..

That rich boyfriend! only if you knew they way he beats his girlfriend or even the little beginnings of their story….

The cooler job…. if only you knew that the boss was indeed an agent of hell( wicked to a fault…)๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

Even some with the most of friends and prettiest of pictures are depressed as hell and contemplating suicide …and are as lonely and as sad as a person can get..

We could go on and on….

What am I trying to say 

Weโ€™re creating a culture of self-comparison that did not previously exist. Not only that, but we compare ourselves to false images, just as altered as those of the airbrushed models.

      –     @iamdanzor

  • Social media life is not reality… 
  • Be thankful for yours
  • Work hard for what you want with intergrity
  • Strike a balance with what you see online and what is truly availant…
  • appreciate others,but do not be deceived and get hurt in the process… 
  • Really really look!

Mad love for you guys…xoxo

Thank you for reading and pleaseeeee comment, like, share and of course subscribe to get notifications on new posts๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

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I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP

Stolen!, loved it so am sharing it

RED LIGHTS

I have been in a relationship
One with parasitic benefits
I thought it was the best there ever was
It wasnโ€™t just what I thought it was
Maybe an illusion perceived
A feeling desired Just to satisfy self and repatriate others
My soul has been eaten up
Like the eroded spherical ball surface
And am left with the little the winds left behind
Pieces of a broken heart
Searched for a hand to mend
I found the love of my life that truly cared
I said yes
He stepped forward and embraced
My filthiness tried to steal this moment
He took me by the hand, walking me to the alter
As we approached all I felt was a transformation
The garment of filth, ugliness and damnation turned to cleanliness, beauty and redemption
He made me his bride and put a crown on my head
Took me into his city ofโ€ฆ

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WHA A GWAN!!๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿ™‹

No๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ yessssss it feels so good to be back! ย I missed writing so much even though it was for a few days.

Whats up guys how have you been? Hows the family, ย hows boo and bae!? I trust God that they are fine and that this recession is not residing in your residence!๐Ÿ˜

I have a whole lot of write ups for us guys… ย Educational, ย amebo, spiritual,everything rantable!!๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‹.. Everything ohhhh! ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰, il be flooding yourย pagesย with awesome reads guys… Much love, i celebrate you guys… And do have a pleasant night rest ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

IPHONE7!! I HAIL YOU! ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช

Iphones๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’,  seriously though!, apart from the class/reputation the phone brings… I really cant place my hands on the reason  why some girllssss will do just about anything to get their hands on one.. And i mean anything ohhh… 

The funny thing is,  you can’t  even tell me its the technology, because half of you guys aren’t even utilizing the phone’s complete capacity !๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’.. I am serious ohh!! Cos some of you.. Its just the camera quality  you are after… Nothing you sabi! ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

Was strolling through instagram some days back and i read this story about a girl who is about to destroy her relationship because bae doesnt have enough owo(cash) to buy her an iphone7, and she is using iphone 6!which  the same bae bought ohhh๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”..common now!, warrisit? 

  Ok okay you want a phone that the ear piece cost 76k… You that can spoil spoil earpiece anyhow!! ๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜• i just dnt gerrit! 

I won’t  lie! ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ, i catch myself fancying the phone once in a while and then i remember all the disadvantages attached to having one… And is it in this present change( somebody sai baba!!๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€), that one will be buying such a pricey phone..

I know guys too are doing crazy stuffs just to lay hold of this new gadgets,  but babes i hail you ohh… Yours is unbeatable! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿ™‡

Here’s a little advice: who Iphone7 epp? 

BE CONTENT!! ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ

 No one will still your Joy… Thanks for reading guys… Have any friend who is about to do something crazy for iphones… Pls gist me Ohhh! ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜‰

SO YOUR SINGLE? ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

There are worse things than being alone. But it often takes decades to realize this. And most often when you do, itโ€™s too late. And thereโ€™s nothing worse than too late.ย 

โ€“ Charles Bukowski

Its funny how so many people view relationships as the best part of life! ย Including me oh! I literally ย have not been single like for ย ever! ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”.

Nonetheless, being single allowsย you to experience so much that is often simply not possible when subjected to the pressures of supporting and maintaining a relationship.

The state of being single is not a curse or something to feel down about. ย It is a stage /period for the following events to take place :

1. IT IS ABOUT DISCOVERING WHO YOU REALLY ARE! ๐Ÿ˜:

Being single gives you a unique opportunity to get to really find outย who you are. The good, the bad, the hidden things are all laid bare. Your strengths, weaknesses and insecurities exposed. Nahhh! we all have those, common! ๐Ÿ˜‰don’t feel bad!ย 

2. IT IS ABOUT FINDING ย OUT WHAT TOUCHES YOU (YOUR PASSION) :

Thereโ€™s something deeply tragic about not ย having a goal of your own, something that makes you jump out of bed every morning, its really not fun playing tag along all the days of your life. ๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜”

Now don’t get me wrong, ย its a thing of joy living for others and putting other’s need before yours. And sometimes it is absolutely ย necessary and the ย right thing to do. ย But what is your excuse na??! So stop it, stop ย delaying and find out what you love to do and do it to the best of your abilities,๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘trust me ,this in turn will give you the strength and love to help those ย you love.ย 

3.LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELFFFFF! ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜

You simply cannot give the pure unadulterated love ย youโ€™re capable of, if youโ€™re held down ย by low self esteem and doubts. Discover who you really ย are, and understand you are wonderfully and beautifully created.. Whether ย you have no front hair on your head, or a bow leg, or your melanin aint popping! ๐Ÿ˜จ who cares jooh!ย YOU ARE BAE, ย so learn to love you.. And in loving yourself , you get the strength to work on your character flaws and let go of all unnecessary baggages.ย 

And last but not the least!ย 

4. GAIN CONFIDENCE :

Discovering your self, your passion, and learning to love yourself ย builds your self confidence.ย 

Now guys, ย don’t get ย it twisted, confidence is NOT pride, ย never was, never will be, whereas confidence will attract the opposite sex, ๐Ÿ˜‰ pride will get them ย running ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ.ย  So Guys build ย your confidence, its sexyyy! ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

With this few points of mine,๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€(debating thinz) i hope i have been able to convince and not confuse you that being SINGLE is not a curse but a BLESSING(GOD-DESIGNED).

Its goodnyt from HOUSEOFJOY! and remember no one has the power to steal your joy! ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜



PORNOGRAPHY๐Ÿ˜ฏ: GOOD OR BAD!?



Truth be told, ย it took a lot of guts for me to decide writing on this topic. I am not writing to judge or condemn no one, ย but i did a little research on this topic and WOW! ย was i overwhelmed.People really are of the opinion that porn is good! ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜ฑWell what do i know? ๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜’

Some are of the opinion that porn is good ย ๐Ÿ‘Œand some are strongly ย against it๐Ÿ‘Ž, but that does not reduce the number of people,(elderly or really young, spiritual or carnal, dignitary or not!) that are held bound by this addiction…. and oh boy! ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ it is sooooo accessible . The internet is flooded with it; ranging from pictures to videos to audios and so on, ๐Ÿ˜“

๐Ÿ˜“ Am sure you wondering how i know ย so much.. Oh well i was once a victim! Have you heard of the “POWER OF ONE CLICK” that click takes you deeper! ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ฅ. Yes i was and i assure ย you the power it has is worse than nicotine addiction. Thanks to a Higher power, that is my past now…story for another day! I’ll gist you some day๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰.

Back to the matter of the heart.. Which ย side do you belong to? ย Good or bad ย and if bad how can one stop it? If good what are your reasons? Remember ย your story might just be someone’s ย help or ginger!

Goodnight fam! ๐Ÿ˜ Remember ย Joy from within can never be stolen! ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜



YOUR LIFE GOALS?

Its a boring afternoon and am watching  movie zone!, yes i know I’m supposed to be at work… Mini holiday! ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜

Yes back to the main ish, so am watching t.v and my friend (can’t say his name… I dont trust some girls๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜œ) whatsapps me with a really mind bugglying question, :”what is your life’s goal? ” ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜จ i literally  frooze,  i thought i knew, was sure i knew ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ,but i could not answer, didnt know what to say, like i really had to think and  all i could say was “make people happy, like really joyous”,  be it joking around or cooking or praying for you, but majorly taking the ugly and making it beautiful .Now this was all scattered in my head and i realised i really needed to define my goals more clearly. So heres my thought:

A little tip on creating your  goals: divide it into  family goals, relationship/marriage goals, career goals, financial goals etc.and really  project into the future,  what do you see? How can you achieve it? Is it too big?  Break it down to smaller bits! 

How about you loves! 

What is your life goal? Apart from being happily married with cute kids and living comfortably, what else? 

Talk to me, you just could help others shapen theirs! 

Always and forever Joy is from the inside!