TRUST THE PROCESSย 

If you skip the process, you will damage the progress 

                          -Anonymous 

I have always been one to say …’ Let’s get this done sharp sharp,  let’s make the money quickly, let’s build the empire tonight….. I just could not understand!,why take so long to make it, let’s cut corners Now and enjoy life… As they say you only live once ‘

Wrong wrong wrong,  no matter how  you look at it,if you wanna  get to the top… Whether by flying or by climbing…it requires time and effort, while some may take more time than others, what really matters is the process….. 

I’l give a story to illustrate this point :

Click the link below to read on it 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parable_of_the_Prodigal_Son
Ever heard the story of the prodigal son in the Bible?!!,  yea! well for me I love to imagine stuffs when reading this stories, helps them stick to memory better………  I personally see the prodigal son as the one who couldn’t be bothered about the process, couldn’t care less how long it took his father to amass the wealth he had and the guiding principles, like myself he wanted it now now,   but he forgot the fact that to sustain the wealth  you must not skip the process(the process  of learning, of becoming, of failing, of succeeding, of trial and error… And so on).  

So he demanded half  of the wealth of his dad.. (completely skipping his process) and went on to the part of progress (chilling & turning up) and like they say “all good things come to an end” the wealth so easily gotten was gone and he had no clue on how to start from the scratch,  he knew nothing of the process (because in that process lies the secrets of success, your trade mark, your unique niche, in that process you realise everything that makes you who you are and makes you succeed) , so he couldn’t start again, he had no clue…………. 

Are you with me?….  Smile if you are๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜˜

Now imagine the brother of the prodigal son,  did one day decide to leave to be on his own as every man should at some point in their lives … Truthfully  guys,do you think he would come crawling back to his dad asking for a dollar or two…. Nah!  He was fully involved in the process, he stayed, soaking himself in the process ….. So his progress would definitely  be lasting and even if he failed,  I’m so certain he would know the ropes on how to start again and maybe even better…… 

Truthfully…………………….. ๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜ฎ

All I see in this generation  are young adults trying to  make it big almost immediately , you see a person who started a business barely up to a year, crying and wailing, comparing themselves to made men and women who have been in the business long time,  gone through the travails they went through, failed  but never gave up.

I have been a blogger/vlogger for about a year +….now the attention  I’m getting is nothing close to what I desire, or where I see some of my peers, but I constantly remind myself by going through their beginning stages… Seeing how they never for once skipped the process,  stuck to it when others couldn’t care less about what they did,  and the ones who ought to even encourage them, did otherwise…..  Realising that the stage I’m  in, they have been there and were out. 

See it’s natural to want it now…..  That’s the human mind,  pleasure Now suffer later….the only thing that we don’t know is that the suffering is way worse and takes more time than the pleasure ever did.

Do me a favour, mentally take note of the people you look up to, E.g……. Justin Bieber(musician), Wizkid(musician), Mark Zuckerberg(daddy of facebook)๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€ ,  Selena Williams(tennis champ) , Linda Ikeji(Nigeria’s number 1 blogger , Sisi Yemi (Nigeria’s number 1 youtuber ) just do a little digging deep,  and you will be amazed at their journey to the top… And the sweet thing about it is, if today any of these people lost their wealth(God forbid)….  They would know how to start over,  where to go, what to say, things to be done, buttons to press….. 

So here’s my little encouragement to that upcoming youtuber, that blossoming blogger… If you ever wanna compare  yourself to the already made men and women in your field, ensure you are comparing their  early stages to your early stage  how they started to yours… 

You’ll  be proud of yourself…… Don’t stop,  someday soon someone will recognize you and God will shine His light on you for the whole world to behold. 

I love you and I’ll see you in my next post where I give you an inspiring story about some one dear to me. 

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Are You Ready for it?ย 

She’s getting married in a week…  Said a friend to me (all smiles and giggles)  and I thought to myself …..”when will my turn come, I really am not getting any younger “….sadly I pushed the thought aside and smiled,  saying “wow thats amazing, time to get out our stilettos….. Lol ”

……..

A few weeks later I am scrolling through my Instagram timeline and I see a post about a lady bitterly complaining about her marriage,explaining how her hubby is so controlling and how she has lost her voice(opinions,visions,dreams..etc) I felt really sorry for her, and later got to find out that She was just 3 months into her marriage….๐Ÿ˜ฑ just so  sad๐Ÿ˜”….. 

That evening, walking home from work, I asked myself… Am I truly ready, if God answers me today and sends hubby my way, am I ready to submit, am I ready to be his help meet, is my character capacity built to understand when to shut up and when to speak out…? 

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.. ๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜•

Now where am I going with this you may be asking, fact is,  I wouldnt be surprised if like me she used to ask the same question “when will my turn come? 

“Alot of times we are desperately asking God for things we ain’t even prepared for or even capable of handling and of course being the loving Father that He is, would keep your request on pending while building your capacity to handle the blessing…. Alot of times, we are actually the ones delaying the process cause we refuse to learn, and we give the popular  “that is how I am” excuse…… 

You know guys, a blessing not well managed can turn into a curse… (food for thought). 

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Let’s take another illustration……………………. 

A little girl aged 5, asked her daddy for a real ๐Ÿš— ,she was ready to drive herself to school she said……  crying and pleading she did all day,  of course her daddy said not yet baby, when the times right, it will be ready for you….she was having none of that, totally not satisfied with that answer and continued wailing, 

so her daddy picked her up and took her for a walk ………,when she was calm he asked her…. “Kyrah who loves you the most in the whole wide world? ” Kyrah still a little bit sad said… “You daddy…. ”

“That’s right my munchkin I love you so much and wouldnt hurt you in anyway!”,  Kyrah nodded her little head…. I know daddy.  At this point,  they were so close to their ๐Ÿก  and so he took kyrah to his ๐Ÿš— and sat her in the drivers seat  and told her to drive…. 

Ohhhh the excitement on little Kyrah’s face… She put her tiny hands on the stirring and tried placing her legs on the foot pedals, she tried and tried  …..but just couldn’t and soon her excitement turned to frustration and then sadness…. The little girl turned to her dad, a lonely tear๐Ÿ˜ข  appearing on her soft cheek, she  said “daddy I can’t reach it, her dad wiping her eyes,  scooped her up and sat in the car with her on his lap and then he explained the following :

1)I will never give you what will hurt or destroy you my child…. I love you too much and I know what is good and when!.

2) You see baby I didn’t say No you won’t get it, I said not yet,  for every gift I give you, you need to develop to be able to manage it, if I buy you a car now, you wouldn’t be able to drive it my love, and even if you tried, you would most likely hurt yourself and others around you.
You see guys alot of time we ask God for wealth, life partner and so on…. But last week your mum/boss sent you to buy an item and some change was left to which you never returned or  last night your male/female colleague asked to please get him/her something and you asked “am I your slave? 

Heheheheh!!!! so ask yourself  ‘am I truly ready for this blessing?  Has my capacity been built to not just maintain it but increase and better it? If you have some doubts ask the Father to help you,  if he gives you the wealth, do you have the capacity to maintain and multiple it? 

I’ll stop her guys, the summary of this post is….. ARE YOU READY?, IS YOUR CAPACITY BUILT? ,ARE YOU THE ONE DELAYING YOUR BLESSING BY PROCASTINATING  BUILDING THE SKILLS REQUIRED? 

Loads of hugs guys, we in this together… It can only get better….. 

2K18…….ย 

I remember  how I entered 2017…. A lot of anticipation, goals, ginger, zeal… Plans….   So anxious to see what 2017 had in store for me…..  Boy oh boy…. ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜

When I recall, I don’t know whether to laugh at myself or be furious…. I really don’t. 

As I counted down to 2018…i couldn’t help but wonder  what exactly did I do/achieve this year…. ?๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ฐ

The truth is……………….Nothing spectacular, nothing challenging, nothing life changing or impactful…..  A lot of nights I would stay awake…. Just thinking… Wondering why I did what I did and why I didn’t do what I should have done…. I did loose a few tears occasionally……………….i don’t even want to remember the events of 2017….., 

but one thing I did learn and I am definitely taking with me into 2018 is that being content is a virtue.… Greed could make you exchange the gold in your hands for a gold plated bronze,  just because it looks shinier……

I displayed alot of greed in 2017….i wanted stuffs not because I truly needed them,  but because others had it and so should I… I know…. Stupid right, an example…. I always wanted an iPhone, not that I liked it, … Lol I eventually got it, after a whole bunch of savings… And now it’s just lying about my room…i rarely use it, it only made me appreciate the phone I was already using…..  I know right….. ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜’ and loads more of examples …even down to people. …

Your bae with the little he has was treating you just  right and you know it…. But then you see you fellow girls tripping to Dubai and back like its their back yard, turning up and then all of a sudden bae is not the best in the whole wide world, he is killing your future…. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜• so you start looking for the big boys in town…. Few months later ex- bae makes it big and current bae is using you as punching bag…  ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ˆ…… Be content…. 

Very sure we have all had experiences similar to this…. Just because B has it,  you want it… Not that it’s essential or even needful to you……..

I don’t know about you…… But

this year all I wanna do is prioritise my life( goals, needs and wants).

The only goal I have is to be consistent with Christ Jesus… 

My needs…. Good money …just enough  for me to be master over it and not vise versa…, health,  and most importantly to express the treasures God has deposited on my insides…. 

My wants: Have a hubby…. Maybe twins.. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

With all said and done…. God said I should bring my strong points and so we could discuss…. So ama  hold that…. And His will will be done. 

You should do the same…. Write the vision down…. Make it as plain and simple as possible, it’s easier to run with.. (don’t forget to present it before God) .

Happy New Year fam…  And thank you for making my 2017…with your comments, likes,  and shares…. 

Am really bored!!!

Is it just me?,  going to work, church then  back home… Years ticking by and nothing really outstanding to talk about…. Days turn into weeks ,weeks to months and months to years…. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฆ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜’

I just was talking with a friend of mine, and I was giving him this same gist of how bored I was… And he could not believe  it…  Cause my life  seems like everything is rosy amd dandy, lol……..  Nope it ain’t… I AM BORED. 

Screaming…..  I need something exciting….!!!, challenging my brain, fulfilling, definitely entertaining….  Ahhhhh 2018 bring with you adventures please.

Am I complaining… No I dont think so,  but I definitely want better, I need to satisfy that satisfaction in me! ๐Ÿ˜ฏ๐Ÿ˜•,( leave my English alone ohh).

So I’m here,  penning down my thoughts for better clarity and knowing surely am not the only one feeling like this….  It’s just really annoying. 

Some peeps feel this way and think marriage is definitely the solution,  others think it’s getting extremely successful in their careers, soaking and loosing themselves in one thing or the other but strangely  I do not think so. 

If you know the solution to this internal boredom and dissatisfaction… Please tell us, tell me… Share your wealth of wisdom.

I celebrate you S. B fam๐Ÿ‘ช๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜…..thank you for your time

Bleaching my skin…. My thoughts ๐Ÿ’ญย 

From time past, dark skin has always being related to ugly or being of a lower class, and I really don’t blame the people who have such ideology….. It was literally  passed down to them but I also blame ๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜ฌ them cause after getting to a certain level of knowledge… You should know better than to think like such. 

God is a creative creator, He basically didn’t like everyone one looking  the same so He let some bake really well in the oven,๐Ÿ˜ some not so much๐Ÿ˜‹, some not at all๐Ÿ˜Œ….  But we all so beautifully made.I don’t get the issue. 

Bleaching is just the cover up for a whole lot of insecurities about oneself, low self esteem, negative experiences due to the skin color they possess, or just ideologies passed onto them as well…  

Imagine going on instagram and about 75% of the ladies chilling or seemingly flexing are the light skinned ones, and the skin be popping and they are the ones with 10,000 likes and 500 comments…. Arghhhh!!  So much pressure to be what you not… 

Sooooooo……. 

What I am really here to say is stop attacking people who bleach,  they need your help and never your condemnation,  somewhere inside, that guy or lady is suffering from a whole lot of insecurities, and all they need from you is an assurance that you truly see their beauty…

I recently read of a popular Nigerian makeup artist on instagram who I used to follow back then… Men!!!!๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜จ I thought she was born light skinned cause her bleaching was done well, But a few months ago she came out with pictures of herself looking so beautiful in her glowy caramel complexion and a long story about why she started her bleaching journey….. 

You see this unique skin disorder called  ‘vitiligo where some parts of the skin is lighter than the other,  people who had them a few years ago couldn’t dare to post their pictures,  but now they do,  cause someone out there chose not to condemn but to see the beauty in them,  now they are embracing their uniqueness and working with it…  


Even people with freckles…. There was a time when people who had it felt inferior and ugly,  but again someone chose to see the beauty in it,  and now it’s even a trend ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜œ

Everyone wants to feel unique and feel that they matter

WARNING๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿ‘ฎ

Guysssssssss if you like a light skinned lady,  good and fine  but then don’t go after a dark ๐Ÿซ beauty and body shame her to a point where she looses all her esteem and feels the only way out is to lighten up.  Please stop it… ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜ 

APPRECIATION ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

And big up to all the ladies who appreciate their  fellow ladies no matter the skin difference and much respect to ladies who don’t think their fellow lady is in a competition with them.

Love and be loved,  all skin colors are beautiful.

Even if you bleached… I genuinely love you even more. Hugs guys

My little wooden piggy bank

Honestly speaking… Saving money has to be the hardest thing I ever did๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜’… I really don’t know why it’s so freaking haaarddd though?!!!!๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜ฆ

The ideology of saving is so sweet to think about, I sometimes imagine myself  saving 1million Naira in a year ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚ I know right!  but jeeeezzzz!!!! ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ๐Ÿ˜คI repeat….  one of the hardest things to do is saving …  At list for me it WAS soooo Hard…. 

Anywaysssssss……. 

I remember when I got my first job,  I had just finished  secondary  school and I was working as a P. A to a D. J….  earning 15,000 naira…about $42.., not bad ayee!! Ohhh for a high school  graduate,  I was on top of the world with that amount ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐Ÿ‘ฐ๐Ÿ‘ฐ (my first hard earned ๐Ÿ’ฐ) ….Had so many plans for that ๐Ÿ’ฐ  which of course included savings๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚, I laugh in franรงais. Story for the  gods,  I did not save a dime! and it  continued this way…  Planning to save and never! I mean never  ever accomplishing that,  even though  the income steadily increased… I just could not save ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ, sometimes I wondered if I was cursed…  Like what a gwan!? 

Do I look like someone that could have saved

See  me now…. One year later… ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Same thing when I was going for my nysc in 2015, oh I had goals…  Save 5,000naira every month… and by the time I would be passing out,  I would have a whooping 60,000 at least to start a business while waiting or searching for a job…. But am guessing you already know how the story went ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿ˜‹… Yep I did not save a dime!  I couldn’t, I tried but…… !!

But praiseeeeee the Lord!!!!!  Today my story has changed ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚..lol and thanks to my mummy, she gifted me this item in the picture below ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ˜ we Nigerians call it kolo… 

So I have started  my saving journey and it’s been HARD….. challenging… but fun. 

You already know me,  if you read my posts,you know I love to research a whole lot…  So I asked google “Why is it so hard to save?” and She gave  me quite an interesting answer….which i’ll break  down in simple terms 

  • Indiscipline /lack of control over self: saving requires a whole lot of discipline and control, sticking to budgets planned even before the income comes in.
  • Debts: this has to be one of the major thingy that steals one’s income… Like imagine you earning  15k/ $42 and you some how have accumulated  a debt of 7k,  by the time you done paying off them debts…  You’ll be managing the rest and saving will be far from you. 
  • Longer throat( living above and beyond your means) : as simple as it is stated…  Acknowledge your level,  accept it,  work with it and  work to get higher…  Don’t pretend or try to live a fake life!  It drains your  finance. 
  • No futuristic goals: this I personally  realised  from my little saving experience…..  So by God’s grace I am looking forward to settling down soonest ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™ and of course you know we need the๐Ÿ’ฒ๐Ÿ’ท๐Ÿ’ถ… So having this goal is like the motivation I needed to be consistent…( Just like when you embark on prayer and fasting …and  you have a burning request/desire, it gingers you, strengthens  you when you feel like giving up. ) same for saving… Set a goal for your savings and you can have different  goals and different  savings.. 

Start small… Stay diligent/consistent, run from debts… Have a goal(s)

I hope this read made you smile and gingered you to start saving…. 

P. S I read of a lady who saved 700k with this wooden piggy bank am guessing most times when she had a craving for junks, or impulsive buying…  she Prolly just took the money she would have used to purchase it and dropped in the box”๐Ÿ‘“๐Ÿ‘“๐Ÿ‘“๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ‘‘

Remember  Live.. Love… Laugh 

Wedding bells!!!!ย 

All her life she prayed to God to send her that man that would love her just the way Christ loves the church………….

Fees weeks into their dating…. ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Michael goes on one knee on the streets of Juliet’s home, bringing out a box as his right knee hits the cold wet ground, ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑshe could not ย believe her blurred eyes… She thought to herself ” I said I wasn’t gonna cry”, ohhhhh Michael!!!!were the only ย words to leave her mouth and then he asked the life changing question ” Jules ย baby will you do me the honor of becoming my wife? ๐Ÿ’ ” ……………..

All Juliet could do was nod her head, ย but in her heart she kept on repeating the words ” Thank You Jesus”……

THE END…. OF THE BEGINNING

Let the wedding preparation ๐Ÿ”” be sounded…

Juliet is and has always been an economist and a simple minded being, she pictured a small and inexpensive ๐Ÿ’’ wedding, ย to the horror of her friends and most especially ย her family… ย Being the Ada (only girl/or first girl) ย in this case she was both, ย  her mom felt it should be the wedding of the year… ย but Juliet was a vast reader and a social media person so she was well read and knew alot of things about big wedding with small pockets… ย It spelt DEBT DEBT DEBT!!!!! ๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ต and she wasn’t having any of that.

So she started with her wedding plans, ย working with a guest list of 100 people which she wished she could still reduce, ย decided to go with just one type of meal, and was about requesting that her traditional and white wedding be done n the same day, when ย her family ย interrupted her plans with a big No Way.

The End….

Now to the real talk? ย Who created this ย laws that weddings had to be a big glitsandglam affair, ย or that holding ย all your wedding in one day was a kill joy!!! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ™€ what is wrong with having a small simple ย family wedding ?

I read recently of a guy who used the money he had saved up for the wedding reception to buy himself and the wife their first new ๐Ÿš—…. and alot of people attacked, ย most especially the LADIES… ๐Ÿ˜‚ ย Nigerians though… Kini ย big deal?!!!

I plan on having the smallest simplest ย and the most beautiful wedding with few friends and families… I have alreadyย readied my sorries… For all my people and relations who won’t make it cause it will fall on a week ย day… All na strategy ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚….

All that matters at the end of the day is God, ย you and your spouse… Ecc4:12…..

So guys tell me something how do you picture your ย wedding day.. Most especially the guys, ย I’m of the school of thought that is the man’s day as well 50/50..

Drop your comments in the box down below… ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

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I wish my mum and dad……..

Ever watch the movie “WAR ROOM”, if you have not!!! Please put it on your bucket list, IT IS A MUST WATCH, and as Nigerians would say “GRAB YOUR COPY NOW! NOW…WWWW!!!!๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Well there are a whole lot of things to learn from the movie believe me, but I wanna talk on one major thing I think is lacking in this generation,has affected me and I wouldn’t want that for anyone… and nope its not what your thinking๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‰ ..

PARENTS INVOLVEMENTS WITH THEIR KIDS.... At some point in the movie, the little girl crying asked her mom a whole lot of questions about her life, like what’s her new coaches name, or the name of her best friend…. and her mum could not answer, she did not know…. That had to be the saddest part of the movie!๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜”

The truth is, this is prevalent in this generation, most parents who are struggling to make ends meet and even those who at some point just want to maintain status and standard of living, neglect and hand over their parental duties to the teachers and nannies and house helps…. That’s not fair….

Do you really want your kid to pay you to spend time with them??

See statistics show that parents who are a 100% involved in their children’s lives live to enjoy their kids, if you know what I mean…

I personally as a kid was close to my dad, still am close, but still my dad was not so involved..that telling him some things is a no no!, and my mum! She tried to get involved a little to late… We close but…. I’m sure you know what I mean, I have this girl friend of mine, their relationship with their parents are goals….I mean honest goals, and before you ask how I know๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜• I lived with them for a while and I know.. Their communication is A1, and there is this confidence to the children and I realized it came from the relationship they enjoyed with their parents.

Children are seeds that need steady and consistent involvement, some TLC( tender loving care) pruning( discipline)  to be the trees and fruitful plants they ought to be.

Some parents don’t even know when their kids have some ailments that affect their natural abilities e.g. autism, dyslexia etc.. and all they do is scream at the child and express how disappointed they are… Well I’m disappointed in such kinda parenting too๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฃ.. But seriously how would they even observe this, when they are there but truly never there… Parents step up ya game please( I speak for every child who has lost his/her voice)

Are you a parent, are you a soon to be parent, are you single like myself?๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜‰ PLEASE AND PLEASE, ITS NOT TOO LATE!! GET INVOLVED NOW, SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH THEM, COME DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL, SEE THE TRENDS THEY FOLLOWING SO AS TO BETTER COMMUNICATE WITH THEM…

#ILOVEMYKIDS #TEAMFAMILYFIRST #AMOTHER’SLOVE #AFATHER’SDISCIPLINE.

Thank you for reading guys, please share and let’s create the awareness…

So ABORTION is a trend?!

โ€‹” the deliberate termination of a human pregnancy, most often performed during the first 28 weeks.”

I’m no doctor, not really a science inclined person at alllllll…. But I know a bit of mathematics..and in 28weeks we have about 7months right.!?….

What am I even saying!, by the seventh month and you still thinking of abortion๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ……you is a cold hearted murder๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿ™…, so let’s reduce it a whole bunch…once the egg is fertilized in your tummy, there should be no going back….I’m not sure how long it takes the seeds to find its way to the eggs and then fertilize๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜•..do the research๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜š…….. It will help.

I sometimes sit back and wonder about the forth coming generation and I just wanna cry, things are getting worse and if Jesus tarries in His coming….boy oh boy!!!! God have mercy.. We have made some awful things feel alright, like a norm… We look the other way when we see things going terribly hay-wire because its not happening to us directly… Ahh! It must stop ohh..

ABORTION IS TRENDING…

ABORTION ain’t cool…its a no no!…

 I like using pictures a whole lot in my writings if you have noticed, they speak louder than words…

Now there is the process of flushing or cleansing immediately after sexual intercourse, that one dey!!!….but if you let your carelessness over your body results in a kid…a festus… It is not okay to abort…please and please.. Don’t act irresponsibly… You felt matured enough to have the sex, so please be matured enough to born the child.๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ™….

I apologize if i’m talking a bit harshly, but I am earnestly tired of reading stories where girls open their mouth and feel alright saying “I have aborted three times for him”.. Ah ah!!!๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜• and people act like its a normal something… Oga! Aunty! It is not right ohhhhhh! 

And if it was a terrible situation that got you in that state, truly sympathetic towards the situation…..but please be informed, cleanse your system on time ..it is in no way abortion.. There is no live in you that you are terminating … Please and please ( that is if you cleanse immediately e.g a day to three days after occurrence).

A lot of ladies In life who have aborted due to one reason or the other….

most times regret it a whole lot latter in life,and that regret really doesn’t ever go away….. but please if you are reading this and you have a friend,a sister, a lover who is preggies and thinking of aborting… Give them other solutions but please not murder!

#ABORTIONISWRONG #SAYNOTOABORTION #IFYOUAREMATUREDENOUGHTOHAVESEX,BERESPONSIBLEENOUGHTOKEEPANDRAISETHECHILD.

Enough said.. Yooooo! If I spoke outta line medically..I’m sorry and thank you for reading..I love you but God loves you so much more.๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜

SLOW AND STEADY

I love talking…and friends know me for a never boring gist.., ( you see i am doing that now..talking too much..not even a hi… Forgive me๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ฟ whats up guys๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ ..how una dey!!!)but I wanted another avenue to express mi-self and so my darling Izzy-D suggested I start writing…even offered to design a website for me (how sweet)๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜… Anyways!!!, right there in his presence I went online and researched on how to start a blog.., came across WordPress and signed up……..๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

We happened to have been discussing about something relating to love and sex and voila that brought about my first topic๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰… (Relationship without sex).

Wow!! The response I got,๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ I was so surprised. I definitely wasn’t expecting it cause I have come across lots of blogs with zerooooo response on them, it was a huge encouragement and as they say “the rest is history………..

Bla bla bla…so Joy what you driving at!!?.. Lol calm down.., your blood dey hot!!! the story is just getting started๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜•.

As time went on, the write ups kept coming but sometimes๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ…walahi sometimes e hard die…no single juice for my brain( I mean inspiration). I began to ask myself “who send you work ?!” “Na by force!?”…… It was those times I wanted to give up soooo bad. You check other people’s blogs and you see huge followership, loads of comments and likes…you begin to wonder…what the hell am I doing wrong?????๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

Well here’s the deal… Its not just me, a lot of folks started up something that they enjoy doing but then observe others in the game doing way better than them… And wonder  what they are doing wrong!?,why they ain’t doing  so well, even though they probably just started their own ventures recently. We dont even care to do some research on them..see how long they have been in the business!, or even tips to know if we on the right track!!!……๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‡

We want it now now now and big big big… But that’s not always the best. Easily gotten..easily lost.

SLOW AND STEADY…

Do a research… The people we admiring and look up to..especially the legit ones who have stayed in the game over seasons come and gone.. You’ll see how they started…๐Ÿ˜ , it will inspire you and you can even laugh at yourself for thinking you doing horribly.(beginners thoughts).. Be you a musician, a blogger,a youtuber, a makeup artist,a photographer,pursuing a professional career.. Etc

Just  REMEMBER

ROME WAS NOT BUILT IN A DAY…๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿ—ผ

I am literally encouraging myself even as I write this to you guys…..

Keep doing what you doing…. Don’t give up no matter how little you think it is and finally just know I’m your number one fan… Cheering you all the way๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿ‘Š

MIRACLES!!!๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜

WHAT IS A MIRACLE?

A miracle?….I personally don’t have a scholastic definition for you๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜.,……. Boohoo right?!!๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’

Well my research tells me that miracles have been defined by many to be a supernatural intervention performed by supernatural beings, while some have said it is the defying of time tested scientific laws…..

These are all true and facts, but let’s bring it down to a lay Man’s definition…….Miracles can be defined as something unexpected,something really nice,something really needed, that happens to me or you, …to you viewing it,it might seem as a normal event,,but to the person experiencing it, it is a MIRACLE๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™ŒHalleluyah.

Let’s use this story as a case study.

A man and his wife had a 10months old daughter .It was the end of the month and salaries were paid yaaayyy๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œbut of course so also were bills to settle๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข( I hate this part of being a grown up)….anyways by the time they settled all their bills…they had nothing left at all…not even enough to buy a gallon of milk for their little baby………….

Scene Two..

Now a man( different from the married man) finished from church one faithful evening and he had a deep desire to hear from God…so he prayed and said  “Dear God speak to me and please use me, Amen!” I will try my best to listen and obey….And just like that he got into his car and drove home….

On his way home he had this urge to buy a gallon of milk ….he thought to himself “hmmm I already have a gallon of milk at home…ohhh God are you speaking to me?…,hmmmm Okayy I’ll just believe its you speaking” soooo he drove to the grocery store and bought the gallon of milk, got back to his car and drove on,listening to a gospel track……….

‘Take my heart and let it be,                          consecrated Lord to thee, ‘…… ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎSinging at the top of his voice, he abruptly stopped again when he felt the nudge to turn left. 

Hmmmm “Lord is this really you?!๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜• this is definitely not funny anymore…if I take this turn…I’ll be entering a residence Lord….its 10 p.m….” 

Instead of taking the turn, this fellow drove straight on (lol๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’)….but the further he went ,the further the peace he felt left him..till he didn’t know when he turned his car around and found himself at the entrance of the residence…..

The lights were off and it seemed the owners of the residence were already asleep…. Getting off his car he said a prayer….

“Lord God, this is scary, i feel like i should go up and give them this milk, but oh well whats the worst than can happen right๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜ฑ, I’ll go knock on the door and if no one answers I’ll just go back home…”

So he walked up the stairs and knocked on the doors. Knock..knock.  Knock…..hmm no response he thought to himself, I’ll try just one more time , just as his hand touched the door…he heard a loud voice speak not so friendly ” who are you and what do you want by this time of the night?”.

Opening the door, there stood a half angry,half sleepy man staring at This intruder with the gallon of milk in his hand. The man stretched out the gallon of milk me to the sleepy man and said “I had the leading to give this to you….please forgive my intrusion…

The sleepy man fell to his knees confused and taken aback!!๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฑstarted crying….speaking under his breath “oh God, oh God, you are so gooood๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ….ohh how can I thank you.                                   His wife came to the door on hearing her husband cry…seeing him on the floor with milk in his hands…she stared hard at the stranger standing by the door…a bit confused and asked with a shaky voice ” who are you? And why is my husband crying?” 

He replied” good evening, am Jackson ….was just telling your husband how I got a leading to bring a gallon of milk to your home, you see I prayed, asking God that if he still spoke to people…He should speak to me… I’m guessing He did.

Her husband stood up,rushing into the house with the milk, entered the kitchen and started preparing a bottle for their daughter……his wife invited the stranger into their house, led him to the kitchen and left to carry their baby ๐Ÿ‘ถwho had started wailing at the top of her tiny voice.(she was hungry)

In the kitchen……..

The man was explaining to the stranger, stilling sobbing.. But calmer now… You see my wife and I got paid but we had an unusual debt to pay this month…and had nothing left by the time we were done, not even enough to buy milk for our little baby… She has been crying for hours and we have been feeding her water….worried for her life and safety…..my wife and I got down on our knees and did the only thing we knew how to, we prayed….we asked God for a MIRACLE……and here you are…

The woman carrying their little bundle of joy, walked into the kitchen saying… ” I prayed to God to send an angel to us,”…. in all humility and seriousness she asked “are you an angel?” 

The stranger took out his wallet and removed all he had on him and placed it in the man’s hand….said goodbye ,turned and took his leave.

On getting to his car, he wept,and thanked God for answering his prayer and using him .. 

An angel of Miracle he was… 

THE END…..

MORAL OF THE STORY:  

Be an angel of miracle today, that act of kindness might seem little to you,inconsequential even!  but you might just be seen as their angel of miracle…..its not too little.no act of kindness is ever too little… That homeless man on your street,take him to the saloon to get a hair cut… That little kid, buy him/her a picture story book…. Allow yourself to be used…..trust me,there is no better feeling…

Thank you for reading fam…. Don’t forget to like, share ,comment ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡and most of all please practise a random act of kindness before this week runs out.๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Its Fridayyyy!!!๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ (Story Time!)

It’s day 6 guys….this month is definitely breezing by…feels like yesterday, we was cooking Christmas breakfast๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข….but anyhowww

Whatz up mi amours. …wha a gwan!, wetin dey sup!๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ ย which ever one appeals to your senses,๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜ How did your week go…pretty cool right!! Lucky you…mine went in a blur๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข….had to even double check my calendar to be sure today’s Friday๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ.

Yes enough of the pity party…let’s get into the story… I have serious gist for you guyss๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰…
Men !. Fear them…hmmm, this is definitely a personal story…happened to me and I couldn’t believe my eyes…๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ lol…

So it all started on a beautiful morning…I was at work and it was such a lazy morning as I had done most of my work the day before…. And usually when I’m bored….my mouth needs to chew on something ( you too right!๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜) ….luckily it was almost lunch time…so I stepped out to go buy some snacks and yassss I was on fleek๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜Ž I mean hair was aii..makeup on point…hehehe ,after ย strolling round the full plaza…finally found some things to chew on..

On going back to the office…I come across two tall muscular guys…( quite appealing to the eyes, i must say๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜‰) and just as I was about to pass by…one of them said hi and stood in my way….(_how rude๐Ÿ˜‚)

(Now guys when I say this guys looked pretty young, like in their early thirties) .

Back to the story….so he introduces himself and request for my phone, which I reluctantly hand over to him…dials his number ย on my phone..and then gives me his complimentary card….. Said our byes and that was it…..

Boring right?!…๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ Fast forward to two days later….

I receive a call from a strange number. ย  ย  ( cos I forgot to store his number)… So am like

Me:hello…good evening

Him: Yes goodevening, how are you?

Me: am good but sorry who I am speaking with?

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Oh boy!, am like what the hell…. But I calm down and try to remember the voice…and I immediately went to my call log…scrolled down to 2days ago..checked the time and gbam! It was him…as I suspected.. So I call him back and he picks and I apologize and we got talking again…

Started chatting on WhatsApp…talked a lot on the phone… He was pretty engaging and it was cool…. Then he requested we go on a date and we fixed a date….

Yes yes date evening came and we agreed on a place to meet, ย when I got there….

Hmmmmm If you see the car this guy drove….hmmmm bad badoo baddest!๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜ I don’t really know names of cars but this car wasss baddddd…as in cleannnn. .. So he picked me up…and we got to our destination,we got talking and I got to understand that he was one of the top oil dealers in abuja.. The man was rolling in ๐Ÿ’ท๐Ÿ’ท๐Ÿ’ท๐Ÿ’ท๐Ÿ’ต๐Ÿ’ต๐Ÿ’ต๐Ÿ’ต… ( some would ask, how do you know…is it by car) see leave that thing…when you see wealth..you’ll know๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰. ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย  ย ….As the conversation continued( which included knowing ourselves more and him asking me to be his girl)….his friend popped into the relaxation center and introductions were made…he joined in on ย our convo… (Now this man happened to more matured.. Like in his early 40’s ) he started explaining how people meet for the first time and immediately fall in love…proceed to have sex and so on and so forth… Explaining why I should say yes to his friend…as he could see his friend was already head over heels…I maintained my stand that it was too early to say yes and I needed a Lil time to consider everything ( ย even though guys I will not lie to you…my longer throat instincts had kicked in and I was already imagining life of splendor…if you know what I mean) . hehehe…

Well the night drew near and I stood to take my leave ..( he had already called an uber for me…which was my first time entering one๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ ,was really cool) so he escorted me to the car… I turned around to give him a hug and I felt him slip something into my pocket. I didn’t bother checking until I was inside the car…and there it was ….moneyyyyyy,( I won’t disclose the amount but trust me,it left my throat dry and my eyes popping… then a text came in…manage that and thanks for coming…as a badt ๐Ÿ˜Žguy that he is….
Ahhhhhh! The longer throat kicked in…during the drive home…my imagination went into hyper drive….ahhh..a trip to Dubai…a new phone ( yes I knoww๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜ฆ๐Ÿ˜ณ…couldn’t help it)…so I got home safely and yessss I remember….my mums church was having a singles program and she invited me…that same evening….welllll! the church was just across the street from our home ….so why not…I went.

Yooo! You might think its a joke, but a movie was on, went I got there( the war room) if you have not seen that movie…please do…. So after the movie, came the prayers and we prayed…. And one of the prayer points was that God should help us make the right decisions in chosing a spouse( which I did ย seriously cos you know…I was already looking at the oil magnet as an option๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ who no like better thing).

Program closed and I went home…. In getting to my room…I just had the nudge to browse out the man…find out things about him…so I went online…took his complimentary card and typed out his details….his facebook account popped up and I sharpily clicked on it….

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All I could hear was my heart beating……………. His profile picture was his traditional wedding photo……… Jesu!!!!
Yeapppp…this guy was married with 3 kids.….ahhhhhh !!!! If I tell you… ย  that nothing about this guy suggest that he is married…his ring finger doesn’t look like he ever wore a ring….he was so fit and flirty and …..I cant explain buttttt chaiiii…( I felt really bad) I personally have a principle of staying away from married men….I don’t want some young girl flirting with my hubby Later in the future cos I believe what you sow…you’ll definitely reap….

So I called him up…and he was like “babyyy have you gotten…..” I didn’t wait for him to finish before I said…. So you’re married….you didn’t think ย that was an essential information to disclose…. And guess what his reply was…..”wellllll ย You never asked…didn’t think you would mind”๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ต๐Ÿ˜ต๐Ÿ˜ต. Ahhhh! ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ one chance..

I can’t shout…to prevent stories that touch… I cut the call and blocked and then deleted the number……..e pain me ohhh!….but God was faithful enough to save me from any further hurt.

Moral of story: not all that glitter is gold…. Involve God in every decision you wana make and don’t be moved by your longer throat๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

So yes…that’s it guys… Hope you enjoyed this story, and I hope you learned something…. Dont forget to like and leave a comment ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡

Thank you and have an awesome weekend๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜… God loves you.